So... What about when you just don't vibe
with an instructor despite going to their
office hours and trying to make some kind of
Because that can absolutely happen.
In fact, I can almost promise that it will
at some point.
And sometimes it seriously feels like
professors are targeting you, and they're on
a mission to view you in a negative light.
Unfortunately, just like there are really
grumpy humans in the world, there are really
grumpy teachers and the very annoying but
best way to deal with this is
to be the bigger person.
Don't ask me how I know this.
Just, just trust me.
When I say getting on their level doesn't go
well, just know that it doesn't
So, how do you tackle this situation?
First, I want you to keep your emails and
everything via email.
Because email, first of all, it just slows
It allows you to thoughtfully say things
versus meeting them in person and
exploding all of your pent-up angry feelings
and getting labeled as hostile.
Not that I've ever been labeled hostile, but
this does not help you.
And if you have a conversation with a
professor in person, send an email afterwards
with a quick summary of what you discussed.
Because like in the real nursing world, if
you didn't chart it, it didn't happen.
Email gives you proof of the conversations
that the two of you had
. When you reach out again, whenever, to this
professor, explain how you are feeling and
explain your side and then ask them, maybe
after an encounter, like, for their
side. "I feel as though I made adjustments
to my writing style after your
previous feedback, and now there is more
correction, but I
don't feel acknowledged for the other
improvements that I have made."
You're going to make a lot of I statements,
"This makes me feel like my efforts are in
vain, and it's difficult for me to remain
motivated to try harder again for the very
How do you see this situation?
Did you notice any improvement from my
Could we meet to maybe help narrow down what
your expectations are
in this situation?" Something like that that
shows like you are
Is this very obnoxious to have to do when
they are clearly just being a total
But fighting a huge battle with them in the
middle of a semester is useless.
The school is more than likely not going to
do anything about it mid-semester.
They don't want to hire or find a new
teacher to fill this spot.
Be nice, document everything, and wait.
You're just going to have to honestly wait.
And in the meantime, document that you asked
You asked for resources so that they could
help you improve the situation or resolve the
current situation. They are the teacher.
They should be able to, at least, give you
some directions or point you to
someone who can help.
That is literally their job.
If they are unwilling or unable to provide
this information, proceed to the person above
them, which is either like the department
head or the dean of the college or something
like that. One step up and, again, just
And since you have it all documented, you
can try to prove that you've been trying to
resolve this issue and can kind of show the
lack of assistance later
if needed. Here is a personal example of
how this played out for me once I stopped
being such a hothead and just
spewing how I felt in people's offices,
getting me labeled as hostile.
My last semester of nursing school, I had a
... They really disliked me.
It was a personality clash issue and
something, like, something had happened
before, and now we were dealing with the
She had taught other classes in the program
with me, and we did not mesh well.
The primary thing that we were graded on for
this particular class was research papers,
and research papers are super-duper
subjective, and she failed me on half of
my grade, which was this paper which meant
that I would not be able to graduate.
This is my last semester.
And I ended up having that turned into a B,
but having a paper
trail of emails showing, like, I asked her
for help, asked her for rationales of
what the grading where I tried to remediate
the situation is what ended up saving me.
And it was a huge part of how I got my grade
adjusted when I did eventually go to the dean
and I asked for a panel of professors who
were not this one to review it,
and that ended up working in my favor.
And they agreed, and they decided that the
grade was not fair.
I got a B and I graduated.
But I really don't think anyone would have
even necessarily looked at that had I not
taken the time to, like, really cool off and
document all of those things to say, like,
"look, I am trying here." So if you find
yourself in a similar situation, communicate
via email, keep documented trails, and then
just try to survive until the end
of the semester, honestly, when all of this
can kind of go from the background to, like,
"Hey, this is what happened.
You know what is going to happen going
forward." And then, once the semester, you
know, once it's done, then you can take it
to the dean or the department head if you
want. Let them know in concrete terms what
your concerns were with the professor, backed
up by proof. Either emails or examples from
Don't just say they were hard, or they were
You want to give examples here, and I'm not
saying anything will change for sure, but I
have seen some types of things change with
this situation after providing
really, really concrete feedback for future
So, I know this is difficult.
Just try to stay calm.
Clearly, clearly, I know that that is hard,
but it really did work better.
I tried both versions for you, and you don't
have to be me.
Choose the chill.
That probably sums up most of the series.
Just choose the chill, probably just rename
And that concludes that.
I will see you in the next playlist where we
talk all about clinical.