Now, another aspect of social behavior
that we want to talk about is Attachment.
How we feel with those that
we love and all around us.
Now, attachment theory states that children
develop a relationship with at least
one caregiver for social and
That’s not to say that it can't be both but out
of bare minimum you need to have at least one
and that doesn’t have to be blood parent.
It could be a caregiver,
or so a grandparents, or somebody else in today’s
world of different families, mixed families.
so one of the caregivers.
And they form this attachment.
on adults we also get this attachment but
it’s made with others significant people.
Other members of our family,
really really close friends.
In previous lectures, we talk about
if you’re going away from for school.
You form attachments with your new
roommates or those of your classmates
because you’re in this scenario and you
need that social and emotional attachment
to feel whole and that’s who
you kind of connect with.
More comfortable when attachments
are around or in a moment of needs.
When you’re child and you fall
and you bang in your elbow,
what’s the first thing you do after
you cry? You cry for your mama
or you’re like “mama, mama”
it’s because they are…
they’re your caregiver that you have that attachment
made. And so they tend to feel a lot better.
When you’re going in for surgery as
an adult you want your loved ones there
after you come out of surgery like
I want to be there for them.
It has a form of comfort makes you feel good.
Now altruism is another social behavior,
another concept which is defined as
a motivational state with the goal
of increasing another’s welfare.
In simple English, you’re really
trying to help somebody
and not only trying to help them like
I’m not talking about just helping somebody
load a bag of groceries in their car.
Something a little bit more significant.
And it’s usually something where that
person is really in the state of need.
Some definitions of altruism state that it
must have both a self-sacrificial in nature
and lack of external reward.
Let’s break that down. Self-sacrificial means that
you’re not really getting anything out of it.
You’re sacrificing yourself in order
to help another.
and there must be a lack of external rewards.
You going and working at the soup kitchen
is there to help people.
You’re giving up your time and you’re not
getting an award, you’re not getting money.
you’re not getting anything other than
a sense of helping and accomplishments
but you’re not getting anything
tangible in terms of a reward.
Empathy-altruism states that altruism
does exist and is evoked
by the empathetic desire to help
someone who’s suffering.
'Cause there some who believe altruism
doesn’t actually really exist.
There's always something you’re
going to get out of it.
And I think almost any way you look at it
you could probably position yourself from it.
and that you are getting something out
of it and a lot of the situations.
but the empathy-altruism kind of
theory states that altruism does exist
and it is evoked by the desire to want
to help people who are suffering.
If you see somebody who’s in pain,
war toward countries, famine
there's something in a sense empathy it says,
“I really want to help and I don’t care.
I don’t need anything out of this.
I’ll give money; I’ll give my time
'cause I feel really really bad”.
Research has shown individuals
will be more altruistic
when they recognize someone in need
or if they feel a sense of responsibility.
So if this is your neighbor, or if this
is a family member who’s really in need,
you’re not going to hesitate, you’re going
to step up and do whatever it takes.
You see this in times of sort of mass hysteria
when big things have happened like 9-11
or you have a terrorist attack
and you see images of people.
And you can see that could easily be me
or I look like that person.
“My God like that’s he's my age
he lives in the city next to me.
I have to do something, I have to help.”
They have that sense of responsibility.
Another interesting thing is the bystander effect.
And that is you feel like you or you’re more
inclined to help out and show some altruism
if there's more around you.
If there is so much of you watching, if this
person fall down or really in the state of need,
you feel bad just walking by.
And if there's a whole bunch of people
like kind of watching the situation
If you feel like okay collectively whether
it’s me or you were ask we need to do something.
We call that phenomenon the bystander effect.
So the number of people around
the situation will impact the helping,
So if it’s just you, you feel
like you got to do something.
and if there's a lot of people
around you, you it comes dilute.
Well, who’s going to do this? Are you going
to do this? Or we’re in this together?
and you can almost kind of bleed into the crowd.
Social support is a perception
that you have people around you.
You have a term that we brought forth
already before the social network.
If you have a good social network or
social support that is going to really
improve your quality of life.
and it’s now being shown to be a major
determinant of health and well-being.
If you are completely individual,
and have no social network,
no friends, nobody to lean on.
We know that overall your quality of
life is considered or rated to be lower.
And that you are going to have
lower determinants of health.
You going to get sick the more.
You going to have more days off.
you might suffer from mood disorders
because of that loneliness or
suppression or lack of ability
to lean on somebody when you need them.
So those with social support have been
shown to engage in healthier behaviors
and have fewer health issues or conditions.
If you know that you have a couple
of friends that you can lean on.
When you need help, you have your mom,
your dad, your brother, your sister.
If you’re sick they can help you get better.
They can help you in times of need.
You’re going through divorce. You’re going
through the death of the loved one.
You have those people there to help you.
Those who don’t have that social support
tend to show poor health outcomes.
Now, four common functions of social support.
I've already kind of hint of the few of those.
Emotional support. I’m going to make you
feel okay when things are going wrong.
and therefore encouragement,
show you the affection.
There is actual tangible support.
Provisions of financial assistance,
giving you actual good, cooking you a meal,
“I can come alright and clean.”
I’m doing something tangible for you
that helps you when your time of need.
I can just give you advice guidance
and point you along the right way.
That’s just called Informational Support.
And then you can have Companionship Support.
That’s one you also need just a hug, right?
So presence of companionship and be around
in social activities, go to a sporting event,
watch a movie with a friend.
That kind of stuff really place a huge
role in your overall social support.