00:01
The most difficult conversations
to have with patients,
for me so far have been
when the news is not good.
00:06
And you're the one who's going
to be relaying it to them.
00:09
And there's no great
way to have that, right?
Because even if you say,
"Hey, you know,
do you want to have someone
else here with you?"
It immediately clues
them in this isn't good.
00:19
The best way, you know,
that I've found is to be honest,
because that's what I would want
with someone,
if they were talking to me
about it would be to be honest.
00:26
And so saying, hey,
and coming straight out and saying,
I don't have the best news.
00:30
That automatically lets
them know that this
and the next follow up question is,
do you want to talk about this now?
Do you want to go get someone?
Do you want to come
into the office?
If this is over the phone.
I want to explain it to you.
00:42
And then when you deliver bad news,
going over,
usually having the report
of whatever it is in front of you.
00:48
So you can highlight
one line and show them
and don't go much deeper than that.
00:53
And understanding
that people really,
they're not there to hear your whole
explanation of a treatment plan.
00:58
I let them know what it said.
00:59
And then we usually give them
one following step.
01:02
"Hey,
this is what we're going to do.
01:04
You know,
I am going to contact these people,
you will be getting
a phone call from this office."
And that's our one step.
01:10
When you have the brain space,
write all your questions down
and then you can bring them
to me and we'll go over them.
01:15
But you don't answer a
lot of questions that day.
01:17
And there's not even
honestly a lot you can say
usually to comfort people
other than I pull up a chair,
if they're fine with me
sitting there and like
putting my hand or like
my arm around them,
asking them, "Can I touch you?
can I hold your hand?"
Can I whatever just being
physically they're for them.
01:32
And that's really all you
can do in those instances.
01:34
I found not overdoing it
is helpful though
because at first I tried to
explain treatment options
and you want to give them comfort
but I found that's not how people
receive comfort in those situations.