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Hi and welcome to Recognizing Conflicts.
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When does a conflict need help?
In today's lecture, you will gain some
insight into how people resolve conflicts.
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You will also be able to recognize when a
conflict is spiraling out of
control. You'll receive a few guidelines to
help you determine if
parties are in what we call a mutually
hurting stalemate.
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You will also receive a checklist where you
can check off questions to help you
decide when to seek help or offer help from
an external
support structure.
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You will understand the four main approaches
to conflict management.
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In order to help us understand conflict a
little better, I'd like to start off with a
case which can be found in the download
section of this course.
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Mrs. Sunshine is the General Manager of the
Regional Council on
Tourism, which sets industry standards and
promotes innovation approaches
to promoting a healthy tourism sector.
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It has 50 employees.
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Recently, Mrs. Sunshine encountered two
employees arguing intensely with
each other. This is the third time this
month that they have been seen
arguing. Each time the situation has become
a little louder and a little
worse. It has had an impact on the whole
office.
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It seems that employee, a mrs.
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Smith who works in customer outreach, feels
that every time there is an
interesting and profitable project
coordinated by Ms.
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Gonzalez, Mrs.
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Smith is not on the team.
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Despite these projects falling within her
competences, Ms.
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Gonzalez feels that Mrs.
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Smith is not needed on those projects
because she can be better used
somewhere else and she can cover those parts
of the project.
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Both have asked Mrs.
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Sunshine to intervene decisively to solve
the problem.
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What would you do?
Well, let's look at this conflict just a
little closer.
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Ms Gonzalez is 30 years old manager.
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She's new to the company.
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She has an MBA.
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She's career oriented, and she feels she
works well in a multicultural team
across the globe.
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She also has no children and has a lot of
time for working.
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Mrs. Smith is 50 years old.
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She has 18 years with the company.
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She works part time because she has two
teenagers and she
values traditional forms of cooperation.
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She seems to like to prevent projects that
she seems to think are
wasteful. Now, if we look at the conflict a
little closer and what are the issues
involved? Ms.
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Gonzalez feels that Mrs.
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Smith is never around for team meetings or
in crisis moments.
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She's not flexible.
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She has old fashioned ideas, and she's been
around so
long she feels entitled.
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She has no interest in new technology, and
she fundamentally rejects
all new ideas.
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She fights anything that she does not
understand.
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Mrs. Smith thinks that Ms.
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Gonzalez does not value basic tried methods.
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She's always wasting time and this kind of
new learning by doing
approach that developed in recent years.
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She does not value reputation and
traditions.
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She feels entitled because she's young and
innovative and she's the future.
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New technology is fine when needed, but it
can create more problems, according to Mrs.
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Smith. She does not value Mrs.
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Smith has experiences and Mrs.
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Smith does not see the need for unnecessary
cost in the industry.
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If cooler heads would prevail, we would see
that both of them have an interest in
efficiency. The image of the company
industry, best practices,
respect for each other, good service,
successful completion of
projects, good resource management and the
acquisition of new projects.
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But unfortunately they're involved in a
series of conflict, escalation and
cycles. Let's have a closer look at
conflict.
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So what exactly is a conflict?
It's a disagreement or maybe an
incompatibility of wishes,
goals, interests, needs, preferences and
values.
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It's an interactive process involving an
active or physical contest
among parties.
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And it actually is based on an
interdependent relationship where neither
side wishes to give in, but they need the
other side's
cooperation to achieve their goal.
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It is often based on having different
assumptions and perceptions about the
issues involved, and these differences come
up due to different
experiences types of education, cultural
values, and
actually our own personal disposition.
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Are we more trusting?
Are we less trusting?
How do we value different things in society?
All of that help us to make our assumptions,
perceptions of the world.
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Now we have five broad categories of
conflicts.
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The first one is relationships, which are
conflicts over how people treat
us and how we interact with each other.
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Issues of status, respect and recognition.
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Number two, we have what we call data
conflicts.
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These focus on access to information,
distribution of
information, how we prioritize information,
and what kind of
information actually is relevant.
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The third type of conflict, which is what we
know the most, are interest conflicts.
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These are struggles over unsatisfied needs
and wishes.
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We can have procedural interest, substantive
interests and
psychological interests.
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Types of conflicts, for example, are
resources or participation.
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Number four are identity conflicts.
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These are fundamental disagreements over our
belief systems, religions,
values, and they manifest themselves in
issues like education,
history, books and actual things in society
that are going on.
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And lastly, we have what are called
structural conflicts.
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They're based on power and resources.
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For example, gender issues tend to be
structural.
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Inter-cultural issues tend to be structure,
but also, for example, how you get a
promotion or how you are invited into a
particular network or mentoring
system. In the case of Mrs.
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Smith and Ms. Gonzalez, we see that quite
possibly there are different types
of conflicts at play.
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One is their whole relationship, how they
treat each other.
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Another one could be a series of interests
over how to structure
project management and and in some cases, it
could also be an
identity crisis between older and younger
colleagues.
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Now, how do parties approach conflict?
Well, we know that the resolution of
interests takes place within a framework
of rights.
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And rights are constrained by the power
dynamic
among the parties.
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In any given conflict, parties may seek to
reconcile their
underlying interests through a win win
process or determine who is
right in a more judicial process.
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In worst case scenarios, people try to use
their power to determine
who is more powerful among the parties.
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What do they consider when they're trying to
decide which way to resolve the
conflict? Well, they think about the cost of
the conflict and they make an
estimation how much power do I have?
How much will I invest?
What is my expected return?
What will I get?
In exchange for the compromises that I'm
making.
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It will also talk about the impact of the
relationship and what kind will I
have at the end of the process and what kind
of risks do
I have to take in order to win?
Lastly, we'd like to talk about the
satisfaction of outcomes.
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If I have no return but I held firm, will I
be happy
or will I be happier if I had a fair
hearing?
Or will I be even happier if nothing came
out of it?
But at least now I know where I stand.
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These are the kind of questions people ask
when they are considering which approach to
take. Now, another consideration that people
have is
how intense is the conflict.
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Depending on the intensity and the time that
a conflict has
taken, people may have other ways of solving
conflicts.
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We know that conflicts have a natural bell
curve
flow. It starts off very minor,
very slowly as a late in conflict, and it
slowly starts to
escalate depending on the types of incidents
that appear
into a real conflict emerging stage.
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The incidents tend to create a feeling of
shock, denial and
outrage at the behavior of the other side
during this conflict
escalation phase.
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Parties tend to disengage, not talk to each
other
and move towards finding outside support for
their own
positions. They may even seek to be a little
bit obstructionist at
the height of the conflict.
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The parties may find themselves in what we
call a mutually hurting
stalemate. Neither side can move to gain an
advantage.
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It is not until one or both of the parties
acknowledge
that they are in a form of conflict spiral
that keeps bringing them into the
stalemate, that they don't start to take
responsibility for the
deescalation. Once they've taken
responsibility for the
escalation, they will slowly come together
to build
trust and begin to re-engage in a dispute
settlement
phase. At the very end, in an ideal
situation, the problem will be
solved through joint problem solving.
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The problem is when the parties are in a
stalemate.
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A stalemate is a situation in which neither
side can win, but neither
side wants to back down or accept loss
either.
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It's a very difficult, very burdensome
situation to be in.
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Sometimes the stalemate could be very long
and it could feel almost
like an unending plateau in the middle of
the desert where nothing is
changing. And it seems that there is nothing
to
do. It might even have a spillover effect on
other colleagues and
members who cannot bear the situation.
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Important to know is that the level of the
conflict becomes intolerable for
even the outsider, and the conflict begins
to impact the overall
effectivity of the team.
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Remaining in a stalemate is not the best
solution in
conflict management.
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What we want to do is to come and help the
parties
understand that they are in a form of
conflict spiral that is
not moving them forward towards conflict
resolution.
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A conflict spiral is a series of actions and
reactions where the
parties conflict intensifies and the
relationship, the
trust and the communication decrease.
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Sometimes people, intentionally or
unintentionally choose to
escalate a conflict.
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They might need attention.
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It might be a call for help.
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They can feel that maybe they can win the
conflict quickly, or they just wish to get
out of this unbearable situation.
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Each round brings a series of new issues and
the list begins
to grow. And we fear the next encounter with
the other
side. Now, looking at this conflict spiral
and looking at
the stalemate and putting them together, we
can identify three different types of
stalemate. One is the imminent catastrophe
as the conflict spiral begins
to get more intense.
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The second one is the feeling of being
trapped and feeling that
every time you lose something in a conflict,
it's another
reason to stay firmly in the conflict.
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There's actually a much more positive way to
look at the conflict spiral.
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And it is that people might be willing to
leave the conflict spiral if
they find some kind of motivation or
incentive that is
more interesting than remaining in that
conflict spiral.
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Whatever we want to do is we want to break
the conflict spiral
by getting them to step out of the conflict
spiral.
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And we want them to realize that the spiral,
while escalating
and verbal rhetorics, is actually keeping
them in a stalemate.
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It's important that while we're working with
people in conflicts and conflict spirals,
that we look at the timing of our
intervention.
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Is it right or wrong to try to intervene?
And what are some of the basic questions
that we ask ourselves?
Now, at this point, you might be wondering,
how do I know that I can help?
Well, here is a checklist of six questions
that you can ask yourselves to prepare you
for that question. Number one, have the
parties exhausted their own
possibilities to solve the conflict on their
own?
Number two, to the parties want help.
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Number three, are you the right person to
help?
Number four, are you an accepted third
party?
And number five, are you doing more harm by
interfering?
And lastly, what help do they actually need?
By asking yourself these questions
independent from your legal,
professional relationship to the parties,
you might come up with some very interesting
answers. Once you've decided that you are
able to
help parties in conflicts, you have to think
a little bit about the type of approaches to
resolving that conflict.
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There are four general approaches that
someone can take.
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One is called conflict prevention.
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These are actions taken to avoid or prevent
the emergent or
escalation of potentially harmful conflicts
to an organization.
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Number two, we have what's called conflict
management.
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The goal is to help parties manage but not
necessarily resolve their
differences immediately.
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Maybe there are some reasons that prevent
the organization from going deeper into this
conflict. The goal here is merely a form of
coexistence
amongst colleagues.
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We hope that the resolution will come at a
later stage.
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Which brings me to our third approach.
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Generally called conflict resolution.
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The goal is to address the substantive,
procedural and psychological
interests through a form of, for example,
mediation.
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And lastly, we want to look at the long term
when there has been conflict.
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How do we transform that conflict?
By addressing the root causes that make
structural changes to that
interaction. The reality is that most of us
are
somewhere in between these four approaches
and we don't really know the
differences. But we're going to have a look
at that in another lecture.
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What we need to know right now is that
between prevention,
management and resolution, negotiation
skills will come into play
between resolution, transformation and
prevention.
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We're going to have much softer,
facilitative mediator approaches,
and this will be the topic of another
lecture.
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Lastly, on the issues of types of approaches
needed, we want to ask ourselves a series of
questions. What is the stage of the
conflict?
What do the parties want?
How is the relationship?
How should the relationship be afterwards?
And what is actually realistic at that
moment?
In the case of Mrs.
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Smith and Ms. Gonzalez, we see that the
conflict is beginning to escalate
into a conflict spiral.
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The parties have asked for help.
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The relationship is deteriorating, but they
know they have to
work together and they'd like to focus on
their work.
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Therefore, there is an opportunity for Mrs.
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Sunshine to either bring in some outside
help or actually if she has
some training in third party intervention,
she might be able to deploy those.
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I hope that through this lecture you have
been able to gain some insight into how
people resolve the conflicts.
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When is a conflict out of control?
When is a conflict in a mutually hurting
stalemate?
What are some questions to ask ourselves to
figure out whether we need
external support or not, and what type of
approaches are out there to
help us solve a conflict.
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Thank you very much and good luck with your
next conflict.