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Hi. Welcome to finding a good mediator.
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You woke up this morning and you went to
work thinking you were going to have a
relaxed, great, productive day.
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And instead you find chaos, conflict,
everyone running around
asking, What should we do?
Crisis mode.
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You think about, Should I bring in some
external help or should I find someone in the
organization to deal with it?
This course is about getting acquainted with
the qualities of a good mediator.
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Understanding what kind of role the mediator
needs in order to fulfill his
or her task. And then also getting some
criteria for when you choose a person,
what kind of person should you choose?
Now, they've done some studies about
mediation, and we know already that
mediation helps to reduce stress, increase
relationships
among team members, and it also helps to
avoid long costs
associated with court processes.
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On the other hand, we know that employees in
an organization
enjoy the idea that they can work in an
environment where they can
solve their conflicts, they can raise
grievances, and that there's a certain amount
of leadership in this conflict resolution
processes.
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Now, the question that we have is what are
the benefits of having an in-house
mediator or an external mediator?
Well, if you have somebody in-house, first
of all, it strengthens leadership within
the team. Second of all, it creates an
organizational culture of
learning from our own reflective practices.
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And lastly, it's easy, it's preventable, it's
there.
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You can always turn to the in-house mediator
to give you a little coaching on how better
to solve the conflicts.
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On the other hand, if you bring in somebody
from outside, you're going to get extra
specialized knowledge.
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The mediator may also not be perceived as
partial to one side or the
other, and also an external mediator will
give you an external
perspective. Now I'd like to use the famous
conflict triangle of the
people, the problem and the process to look
at what does a mediator actually
do? When we're looking at the problem, we
can think that the mediator might
help the parties to explore the problem, to
identify if information is
missing, what kind of information needs to
be integrated, and also
maybe thinking through creatively with the
parties on what is a winning
formula to reaching agreement.
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On the other hand, if you think about the
mediator who is more of a facilitator of the
process, you think about the mediator
looking at phases and
wondering where is it a good time to move
from phase one to phase two?
How to set an agenda, how to strengthen
creativity, and what
kind of follow up activity needs to happen
once the parties leave the
table. The mediator has a third area that he
or she has to work in, and
that is helping to encourage relationship
the people aspect, how to
get them to make that difficult choice of
moving from non agreement
to agreement how to maybe change the
communication from a kind of
fighting aggressive kind of communication to
a friendly, more nurturing kind
of communication.
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Lastly, a mediator is going to help the
parties identify when to
make that necessary breakthrough to reach
agreement.
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Now that we know the roles of the mediator,
let's think through what are some
qualities that a mediator needs to have in
order to fulfill all these roles?
Well, the first and foremost quality a
mediator needs is integrity.
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He or she must be able to ensure that he or
she does
exactly what he or she says he will do or
she will do.
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A mediator also needs to have transparency,
make sure that information that is
either received or are given to one side is
received and given to the other
side. And if it's not, it has to be an
agreement with all the parties.
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This leads me to a third quality
impartiality, and we will discuss that a
little more a little later.
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A mediator needs to be empathetic, to be
able to understand that there are
multiple perspectives at the table.
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Also a mediator should be creative and if
not creative, to know
how to use techniques to help the parties be
creative.
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And lastly and foremost, the mediator needs
to be able
to promote a feeling and an environment of
confidentiality.
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The mediator is kind of holding the space
where the people can sit and they
have to feel that they can share information
or situations or
emotions. They would not do so in any other
situation.
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A mediator needs to have the skills of
observing, listening,
questioning and reframing communication.
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At the same time, the mediator has to have
exceptional facilitating
skills, knowing how to move the people and
the process along
without feeling that it's mechanical,
awkward or
unnerving. Most importantly, a mediator
needs to have the skill
to deal with imbalances of power.
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When somebody comes and feels they can just
push their way right in and say, I
demand this, how does the mediator take that
power and repackage
it into a problem solving approach?
And that's the last skill a mediator needs
to have in order to ensure that you're going
to have a win win solution at the end.
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Now, now that you know that the mediator has
qualities
and skills, you also have to know that
different mediators have
different styles and they form different
approaches.
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We have, depending on the goals in the
organization, the nature of the conflict,
the quality of the conflict, the people
involved, different formats for
different types of conflict.
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We have what's called an evaluative
mediator, a facilitative
mediator and a transformative mediator.
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Now, for the normal person, we might think,
Well, we all want to be
transformative or No, I want the mediator to
just facilitate the
process. Or No, I want him to help them
evaluate.
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I actually need all three.
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Well, yes, all mediators do all three, but
some of them place an emphasis
on one more than the other.
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So let's look at this. For example, an
evaluative mediator is more of an
expert. Counsel has legal expertise who can
sit down with the parties and
look at the conflict and help them evaluate
the cost and the
benefits of each of the options.
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The goal in the process is to assist the
parties to negotiate a
solution. This is mostly associated with
court annex
mediation. The second style of mediation is
more
facilitative, where the parties seeks to
create a more of a
workshop environment where the parties
themselves have the full control of
what happens and the mediator is only a
process manager moving things
around, bringing information and making sure
the parties feel comfortable, but
never making substantive proposals to the
parties that
remains in the hands of the parties
themselves.
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The goal, again here is to find a mutually
agreeable
solution. Now, the third and last style of
mediation a
mediator is a transformative mediator.
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This type of mediator seeks to empower
parties.
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He or she is there to just reflect and
summarize what the
parties are doing.
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They seek to get to the root causes of the
conflict and help the parties
take the conflict into their hands and find
their own solutions.
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I know what you're thinking.
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You're thinking even if I would agree to
having
a mediator, I would not be able to sell this
to my boss, to the board of
directors, to the insurance company.
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How am I going to actually know that this
mediator is
professional? Well, there's a movement
around the world to ensure that mediators
are professional and they are working on
having internationally recognized code of
conduct. So what exactly is a code of
conduct and what is its purpose?
The main purpose of a code of conduct is to
ensure the mediators independence,
and for that, you need six things.
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Number one, competence.
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The mediator should be competent in the
conflict.
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Number two, fee agreement.
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The mediator should negotiate in advance how
much he or she will earn from this
process. Number three, process agreement.
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The mediator should sit down with the
parties and explain the process, and they
should agree to that process.
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Number four, confidentiality.
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The mediator has to commit not to be called
as a witness for either side
at in any point of the process.
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Number five, a fair process.
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The mediator has to commit to the principles
of fairness.
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And lastly, number six.
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Impartiality. The mediator has to ensure that
he or she is not taking sides
to any of the parties with these six
components.
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The mediator creates a contract with the
parties, goes through the entire contract,
and the parties must sign and agree to the
process in advance before
any session of mediation takes place.
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I'd like to go a little deeper into the
question of impartiality.
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Some people use the word even neutrality.
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The two are symbiotic and are a balance that
form two parts of
what the mediator must always ensure.
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Number one, the mediator should never take
sides and should never show preference
to any side.
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That means, in terms of neutrality, no
interest in the outcome of the
conflict, no benefits from the conflict, and
not having any
special social relationships that might be
misconstrued by the parties in terms of
impartiality. The mediator must ensure a
certain amount of professional
distance, equal distance to the parties
should not be
biased and should ensure the principles of
fairness at all
times. Neutrality is how I treat the entire
conflict and
impartiality is how I treat the parties.
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So you've reached a moment of truth.
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You're ready to decide.
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Okay, we want a mediator.
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We need some criteria.
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How do we choose a mediator?
Well, I have six criteria for you.
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If you want to choose a good mediator, you
want to ensure that the mediator has a
good reputation within the mediation
industry, that they have a
background in mediation and in the type of
conflict you are working in.
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You also want to consider their styles and
see which style fits best for you.
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And most importantly, you want to ask around
other people and make sure that you
have a referral from someone else who says,
Hey, I've used them and they actually are
very good. One very important question you
want to ask that mediator
is are they adaptable?
Can they adapt to different situations or do
they have only one style and one
preferred style that they do not want to
change?
This will ensure that you know what kind of
mediator you are getting in your
team. And lastly, it's not always polite to
ask,
but you need to know the success rate.
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If a mediator has 100 conflicts and 100 were
not successful, you might
think again about this mediator.
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On the other hand, maybe the mediator has
only had ten conflicts and all ten were
successful. I would go with the latter.
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I hope that during this video you have
learned, A, what are the qualities of a good
mediator? B What is the role of a mediator?
And see what are the criterias for choosing
a good mediator.
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Thank you very much for seeing this video.
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And don't forget, good luck on your next
mediation.